Holidays can be tough.
We aren’t with loved ones who are far away, and we are with loved ones that may be emotionally far away or don’t understand us. I picked the I is for Indian Gardens card, which is all about belonging for this week.
How do we know where we are supposed to be? Here’s a fun exercise to do. Here’s two lists. One, is the feelings you have when you are where you belong, and the other where you probably don’t fit. Recall a time when you felt a great sense of belonging. I always think back to Drama Club in high school. Those were a fun bunch of kids. Then think of situations or scenarios which felt the opposite. This is your “template” you can go to when you are feeling out of sorts or rejected, and don’t know why.
Here’s my lists.
Bliss and Belonging List
They just see you and think you are kinda cool.
You are in flow.
You feel creative.
You feel expansive and hopeful.
You feel supported.
You feel like you can just be you and it’s enough. You can let go and relax.
All that you offer is more than enough.
They compliment you and you compliment them.
Where You Might Not Belong List
You feel like you need to jump up and down to be seen.*
You keep trying.
You feel like you have to give to get what you need.
You want to change yourself to belong.
You might feel shame.
You contract and feel less hopeful.
You don’t feel understood. You have to explain yourself.
This applies to your social circle, your work, your job and even using social media. If you are feeling you are invisible in certain social media, go where you are seen! It’s an awful, awful feeling when you hear the crickets sounding and nothing else in the room when you are offering a lot. That’s a sure sign you aren’t supposed to be there; that isn’t your audience. But you might find that certain things match one medium better than another. For instance, my posts for classes works great on my blog, but not always on Facebook, but I found a welcome home on Pinterest for them. My art digs being on Instagram and there’s lots of love there, but when I post on Facebook sometimes I feel ignored and then I slowly experience the second list.
Have fun making your lists today. This is a great tool to get you out of funk and back to where you belong.
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