I don’t usually venture into politics, or anything near that loaded area, but I had to speak up on this topic…
There’s lots of talk about traditional values surrounding the past election. I have a different view about traditional values. If those values are about caring about each other, being honest, respectful, loving, and hearing others, I am all for them! And we do need to maintain those. But there are “traditional values” that I do not want to go back to. And these are my thoughts and values, that may or may not reflect what you believe.
- If traditional values are going back to wearing aprons and high heels in the kitchen and my role as a woman is to stay in the kitchen, I do not believe in them or whoever created them. Who is that pleasing? Especially the high heels that really hurt and I’m still probably a lousy cook, so I’m not pleasing anyone. I’d rather nurture in a different way, thank you very much and now I can. As a woman, I have many skills and intelligence to share. I can nurture through what I teach, what I create, and how I love. And if my sole and only purpose was to have children, well, whoops, I failed at that one, so there are many ways to birth life into this world.
- If traditional values mean a world where women are secondary to men, of course, I disagree. How is that helpful to anyone?! I have no desire to go back to having no voice and being second to the man in a household. Healthy relationships and marriages are equal partners who respect and hear each other. One is no greater or wiser than the other.
- If traditional values mean my body doesn’t matter in any way, or I’m considered a slut if I use birth control, I want no part of them. How backwards in thinking is that? Oh, but if a man has sex with different partners he’s virile. Uh huh. Why would I want to be thrown back into a cage from the 1950s if I long been out of a cage. A cage that men, not women, built.
- If traditional values mean a world where if you are a man and you love a man, or a woman who loves a woman, you are considered an outcast and something deeply wrong with you, I don’t live in a world like that. God made everyone and loves everyone just as they are. That’s God–the ultimate model of love, who I want to aspire to be like one day.
- If traditional values mean stifling my voice and not being able to have a say when it comes to authority, I want no part of that. I am seeing real change happen when the average person speaks up and says No, especially in regards to laws about animals and other areas I care deeply about.
Perhaps, I am not understanding the perspective or thinking from those who champion these kind of traditional values. As a woman in my 40s, I have a very different perspective and experience than a middle-aged or older male. I haven’t lived that life. But I can’t understand how any values would be helpful or healthy that exclude or ignore the needs of a huge portion of the population.