I am learning, or actually, relearning the lesson of “finding your thread.” Many of my clients and students are in transition regarding career and feel a bit lost. For myself, I am fine-tuning or targetting that mission every day. What I have learned to pass along is the importance of identifying what are the main skills or activities you love to do.
For instance, I am finding that I what I love to do has a common thread of detective/analytical/discovery work mixed in with compiling/designing/writing, then sharing or teaching what I learned. That thread is so simple yet took a while to wade through the crap that included:
1/what I thought I should want to do
2/what others wanted for me
3/past parental pleasing
4/what the market wanted me to be
What this discovery means is when I sway off the path of that thread, I’m not happy. If I am asked to do a workshop of something I no longer am exploring, and the discovery isn’t there or the detective work, I will walk away unfulfilled. If there is no compiling/designing or putting together in some way, I will feel like a vital part is missing. And if there is no teaching component or sharing intended to help or inspire, I will feel empty.
I love making a flower essence which includes the discovery and creating and sharing. Creating my online classes includes all of the thread. Doing a reading involves lots of detective work, sharing and even compiling. These are all “yeses.”
Years ago, I was in a television pilot that didn’t include the creation/compiling end of things, so I felt a constant frustration throughout filming. When I didn’t include that activity/skill in my practice, I felt an emptiness I couldn’t name. When I was an illustrator only, I loved creating for a problem. There’s that analytical/compiling, the sharing, and discovery. My soul has been guiding me all along to what fits and doesn’t fit. That dissatisfaction let me know I was off my path of what fits me.
Finding this thread also eleviates a great deal of compromise on my part. I can also then, resist what others want for me but doesn’t fit. I simply take their suggestion and see if it fits into my thread.
What’s your thread? What is the component in your work that makes your heart sing happy Disney songs? What activity do you do naturally and would do even if you weren’t paid? What part of your work now doesn’t fit and drains you? That’s probably not part of your thread.
(if you do need help finding that thread and need a little Guide assistance for your search, head over to the Readings page and schedule a reading. I’d be happy to help.)