It is here where I decide what to get rid of in my life and what I shall keep in the coming year. And sensitives and empaths, you may very well relate to my list. Consider writing one of your own to end out your year.
Include in your manifesto:
- List the areas where you continually are either a/triggered b/upset c/angry or d/just plain unhappy or bitch about, and translate those into boundaries of what you won’t allow into your life. Create some powerful walls to protect yourself.
- List the areas that made you happy, smile, and feel good about yourself and life. These are the must-have’s; the fuel for your tank. These are the things that no matter how busy life becomes you will include these or you will see a lack of balance and an unhappy you. It’s a way to stay on path and on track.
- List regrets. Life is just a series of learning. Our regrets over the last years are what we would have done differently if we had a time machine. Listing these in no way is a vehicle to “should” on yourself. It’s rather a great way to show how you have grown or learned in the past year.
- Goals. These are tricky. Many times, in the beginning of the year, we make a ton of wants and goals and then feel like crap by the end of the year when we didn’t lose those 10 pounds or publish our novel. I’d suggest this part be what you’d love to do or experience. Make it doable and possible.
Here’s examples from my Manifesto. I have to have to be happy and what I won’t give up:
- my own pace and rhythms
- quality time with those I love
- teaching my online classes. Totally dig my students.
What I will give up:
- other people’s shame or should’s coming at me
- giving to those that don’t appreciate it
- ignoring my own needs
Regrets for the past years:
- I don’t regret adopting per say, but if I had a time machine, I would have been better educated, demanded all the records in the beginning, and asked much more questions. I would have demanded better support. We were very naive and set up for failure. I would have also made sure my own needs were always met, and in no way, will I ever allow someone, even a child, to abuse me or put me into an abusive environment.
- I’d have finished graduate school.
- I wouldn’t have eaten that much sugar. Well, this could also be included in my won’t give up list, so it’s a toss up right now as I eat Xmas cookies while I write this.
Writing a year-end manifesto can make some powerful changes as you shape what you want your world to be like. It also can help you stay more in-tuned to what you want, which for most empaths, is hard to do. We are wired to be in-tuned to those around us and our environment first.
(Excerpt from Tips for the Sensitive ebook. Now available by pre-order here.)